Navigate toxic dynamics, manipulation patterns, and generational dysfunction. Understand the roles. Break the cycles.
When something goes wrong in a family, the system needs someone to blame. That person becomes the scapegoat. They carry the dysfunction so everyone else can pretend the system is healthy.
Maybe you're the one who always gets blamed. Maybe you're the peacekeeper who's exhausted from managing everyone else's emotions. Maybe you're the golden child who's finally seeing the system for what it is.
Whatever your role, you didn't choose it. But you can choose what to do about it.
Understanding your assigned role is the first step to breaking free.
The one who gets blamed for everything. The family's dysfunction gets projected onto them. They're not crazy. They're the only one telling the truth about a sick system.
The one who can do no wrong. They carry the family's hope and expectations. The pressure is crushing, and their identity is wrapped up in performance.
The one who keeps the peace at all costs. They manage, excuse, and cover up the dysfunction. They're exhausted but can't stop because the system depends on them.
The one who disappears. They learned early that invisibility is safer than engagement. They're disconnected from the family and often from themselves.
Seeing the system for what it is. Identifying manipulation tactics like gaslighting, triangulation, and emotional blackmail. Understanding why you respond the way you do.
Learning to set limits without guilt. Deciding what you will and won't tolerate. Building the internal strength to hold your boundaries when they're tested.
Low contact, no contact, or restructured contact. There's no one-size-fits-all answer. We work through the decision that's right for your situation.
Separating who you are from the role you were assigned. Rebuilding your sense of self after years of manipulation, criticism, or neglect.
Not repeating the patterns with your own children. Building a family culture based on health instead of dysfunction.
If you're a man dealing with toxic family dynamics, manipulation, or scapegoat recovery, you might also be interested in Lions Don't Bow. It's the men-focused arm of this practice, built specifically for men reclaiming their identity and leadership.
Visit LionsDontBow.comFamily systems coaching happens through individual sessions. We work on your understanding of the system, your responses to it, and your decisions about how to move forward.
Sessions are 60-90 minutes, in-person in Broken Arrow or virtual. Frequency depends on your situation and goals.
Some clients also benefit from including family members in certain sessions, but this is never required and only happens when it serves your goals.
Individual Session
$250
60-90 minutes
Monthly Package
$897
4 sessions per month
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