Couples Clarity

You can't fix what
neither of you can see.

You're walking on eggshells in your own house, editing every sentence before you say it.

It's the same fight on repeat. Different trigger, same script, same ending.

You're roommates now. Polite. Efficient. Miles apart.

You've read the books. You've suggested counseling. He shut it down, or went once and quit.

Here's what over two decades with couples in crisis taught me: the fight is almost never about the thing you're fighting about. There's a pattern underneath it. My job isn't to referee your marriage for a year. It's to hand you both the map.

Clarity, not another year of sessions

I don't provide ongoing couples coaching. I provide couples clarity. Here's the whole model:

  1. You both take the assessment. Separately, honestly, 45 adaptive minutes each. Phone is fine. Many husbands who won't sit in an office will answer honest questions on their phone.
  2. You get three documents. His full Clarity Report. Her full Clarity Report. And the comparison report: where your walls meet, where your patterns collide, the cycle the two of you make together.
  3. We debrief it, together, for 45 minutes. The man who built the instrument walks you both through what it found and what to do with it.
  4. You take the map where it serves you. Into counseling, with names provided and your discovery already done. Or into work with a Stronghold-certified coach. Either way, you arrive knowing.

What clarity costs

One couples counseling sessionAn hour, mostly spent explaining yourselves. Then another. Then another.
$150 to $250
The whole map, plus the hourTwo reports, the comparison, and a debrief with the man who built the instrument.
$349

If you go on to counseling afterward, your reports go with you. You'll save your counselor a month of discovery, and you'll save yourselves a month of paying for it.

Questions wives actually ask

Will he actually do this?

More often than he'll do an office. It's 45 minutes on his phone, private, and nobody is analyzing him in the room. The report speaks to him in his own answers.

Do you take insurance?

No. This is private pay, and that works in your favor: no diagnosis on file, no insurance company in your marriage, and your reports are yours to take anywhere, including to any counselor you choose.

Is this couples counseling?

No. I'm a Christian coach, Gottman Method Trained. This is assessment, clarity, and direction. If your marriage needs ongoing counseling, the debrief ends with names and your maps in hand.

What if it's bad?

Then you'll finally know what "it" is. Both reports name strengths as well as damage. Couples are usually surprised by how much of the picture is workable once it has names.

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."1 Peter 4:8

If there is violence or fear in your home, this is not a coaching problem. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233, or 911 if you are in danger.