A diagnostic premarital program that tells you the truth about your relationship. And at the end of eight sessions, gives you a direct recommendation on whether we believe you are ready to marry.
You know your partner. You've met the family. You've read the books together. You've had the hard conversations about kids, money, and faith.
But every person carries patterns they do not see in themselves. Wounds they have rationalized. Survival strategies they have never named. Defense mechanisms that run automatically the moment they feel threatened.
The patterns you cannot see in yourself or your partner are the ones that will define your marriage. Not the ones you have discussed. The ones you do not know exist.
Stronghold was built to be that tool. Over nearly two decades of coaching men and marriages, it has surfaced what standard premarital prep cannot touch. The patterns that hide during dating. The dynamics neither of you have put words to. The inherited scripts that will run your first year of marriage.
And at Session 8, we tell you directly whether we believe you are ready.
One hundred thirty plus composites across eighteen categories, built specifically to measure what predicts marriage success. This is what the diagnostic surfaces about you and your partner as a couple.
Every month I sit across from a couple in their first or second year of marriage who says some version of the same sentence.
"I did not know he was like this."
"I had no idea she would react this way."
"None of this came out when we were dating."
They are not lying. They are not careless. They are not people who skipped premarital prep. Most of them did everything their church, their pastor, and their culture told them to do before the wedding.
What they did not do was take a real diagnostic. They took personality quizzes. They answered questions about their love languages. They discussed finances in general terms. They had someone walk them through communication tips.
None of that tells you what it will actually feel like to live with this person in year three. None of that shows you how you will fight, how you will repair, how you will survive the hard years. None of that gives you an honest answer on whether you are ready.
Stronghold does. Not because I am a magician. Because after nearly two decades of watching couples in crisis, I built an assessment that measures what actually predicts marriage success.
And at the end of eight sessions, I tell you directly whether I believe you are ready. You get a compatibility profile drawn from your combined data. You get my recommendation. Most coaches will never say the hard thing. I will.
Delivered over eight to twelve weeks. Ninety minutes each, with Session Five running two hours. In person in Broken Arrow or on video anywhere.
We start with your individual histories before we touch the relationship. The Stronghold Assessment launches here.
Each of you meets yourself in the data. Your patterns, vulnerabilities, and strengths. Your partner listens.
We map the actual pattern between you. Pursuer and distancer. Conflict escalation signals. Repair mechanisms.
We teach you to fight without destroying each other. Tools you will use for decades.
Two hours. The three topics that kill more marriages than any other category combined. No surface conversations.
What you inherited. What you will refuse to carry forward. The specific family members to watch.
The covenant foundation. Roles, prayer, church, spiritual warfare. Christian framework handled directly, not avoided.
You sign a written covenant document we build together. Then we plan the first year of the marriage.
Most premarital programs end with a certificate and a vague "you're ready" from someone who did not do the deep work. Ours ends with a direct recommendation.
A composite score drawn from your combined Stronghold data across one hundred thirty plus dimensions. The specific strengths in your relationship. The specific areas of risk. Not a letter grade. A map.
A direct answer on whether we believe you are ready to marry. The specific reasons why or why not. Not a certificate. A recommendation from someone who has spent nearly two decades watching marriages succeed and fail.
Most couples finish premarital work with a signed certificate and a warm feeling. Our couples finish with a diagnostic profile, a signed covenant, and a written plan for the first year of the marriage.
This program is demanding. It surfaces hard things. It costs money, time, and emotional bandwidth. It only works for couples who actually want the truth.
Paid in full or split into payments.
Discovery call at no charge to determine fit before enrollment.
Secure checkout via Stripe. All major cards accepted. 100% refund if discovery call determines we are not the right fit.
Thirty minutes. No charge. If we are not the right fit for your situation, I will tell you. If we are, we launch the assessment the same week.