When the person you married rewrites every conversation and you're always the one apologizing, you're not crazy. Christian coaching to see it clearly and decide your next step. Virtual, nationwide.
You rehearse how to bring things up so it won't turn into a fight. You apologize for things you didn't do, just to end the silent treatment. The person the world sees is charming and generous; the person you live with keeps a running tally and somehow always comes out the victim. You've started to wonder if you're the problem — because you've been told, over and over, that you are.
You're not crazy. Living with manipulation and control wears down anyone's confidence and judgment — that's what it's designed to do. And as a Christian, you may feel an extra weight: that loving well, or honoring your vows, means enduring anything in silence.
Dr. Johnathan Hines is Gottman-trained and has spent over two decades helping people in marriages like this get clear, get steady, and discern the next right step. This page is where you begin to see it for what it is.
You can't navigate what you can't name. These are the moving parts of the pattern — written plainly. Start anywhere.
If you're a man carrying this, there's a guide written for you: narcissistic abuse recovery for men.
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A private self-check that maps what's really happening in the marriage — the patterns, the pressure, where you've lost yourself. Results on screen immediately.
The full Stronghold Assessment and a 50-minute session with Dr. Hines, plus a written Clarity Plan: what's happening, where you are, and your next right steps. Intake by phone.
Faith-grounded coaching to rebuild your clarity and boundaries, and to discern — without fear or pressure — whether and how the marriage can change. You can start on your own.
How do I know if my spouse is a narcissist?
Coaching doesn't diagnose your spouse. It helps you see the pattern — chronic blame-shifting, gaslighting, eggshells, a public face no one sees behind. If raising any concern reliably ends with you apologizing, that's worth taking seriously.
Can a Christian divorce a narcissist?
This is sacred ground, and coaching won't make that decision for you. Scripture takes both covenant and safety seriously. The work helps you get clear, safe, and prayerful so you can discern with wise counsel — not from fear, exhaustion, or pressure.
What if my spouse won't come?
You can start alone, and most do. You can't change a spouse who won't engage, but you can recover your own clarity and footing — which changes the dynamic regardless.
Is it virtual and nationwide?
Yes. All sessions are virtual, nationwide, from Broken Arrow, Oklahoma.
Start with the free assessment. See the pattern. Choose your next step with a clear head.
Take the Free Marriage Assessment